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Korean relationships

Weddings

A lifetime event. When two people get married, they are bound until they die. For better or worse, no matter what happens to the other spouse, they will stick together. Two people are usually married by the parent's decision. When the age for marriage is reached, parents will look for a match. They will try to find out the personal background, personality, past generational background, and everything possible about the future spouse. Sometimes, if parents know the other family well, they may choose a spouse even before their child is born. If the parents do not know anyone, then they will use a matchmaker to find a spouse. Marriages of this type are traditional and rarely ever break up.

Etiquette

Most follow the phrase "Sang Kyeong Ha Yae" which means respect your elders and love your juniors all the time. Whenever meeting an elder, always show politeness and speak to him/her properly with care, concern, and full concentration. Seniors show care and loving to juniors by fully supporting them to be a better person and success in life while always correcting and teaching their mistakes with love. This develops self-respect and makes good etiquette a habit so that whenever one does something, one really cares about what he/she is doing.

Family

Usually, the eldest son (and his family if he already has one) lives with his parents. Therefore, if the father was the eldest son, the eldest son will also be living with his grandparents. Normally, the grandfather commands and has control over the family. If a son lives only with his wife and children, he is in charge. If he dies and the wife is still alive, and the eldest son is old enough, he will take responsibility for the family. If he is not old enough, then the oldest person, the wife, will take the responsibility for the family. Men are called "outsiders." Women are called "insiders." The woman is responsible for the needs of housekeeping, the whole family, and maintaining happiness and peace. The man works outside and fights for whatever necessities the family needs, for success and better living.

Older persons

If the older person is known, call him/her by the family name or title. However, if they are friends of the family, call all their family members as you would call your own family members, for example, older brother, older sister, uncle, aunt, etc. Call younger people by their first and middle names. If you don't know the older person, call a man "Sun Seng Nim" (sir) or "Ah Jeo See" (uncle), and call a woman "Ah Ju Muh Knee" (aunt). Senior citizens are called "Hal Ah Buh Jee" (grandfather) and "Hal Muh Knee" (grandmother).

Teacher and student

The teacher receives respect from the student and gives student love. The teacher/student relationship is similar to the relationship between parent and child, no matter what the ages of the teacher and the student.

Community leaders

Community leaders are shown the same respect as is shown to teachers. We respect them as our leaders no matter what their age. They love the community and have responsibility for it.

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